It’s Okay to Pivot: Embracing Change & Rebirth
There comes a time in our lives when we experience a shift—one that stirs something deep within us. It can feel uncomfortable, uncertain, even daunting. But one of the greatest lessons I’ve learned on my journey of becoming deeply rooted is that pivoting is necessary for growth.
I’ve shared before that I’m in a season of stepping into my wholeness, and rediscovering who I am outside of my cherished roles as a wife and mother. But when I first started awakening to this shift, I struggled. I didn’t know what it would require of me or what life would look like on the other side. And to be honest, I wasn’t eager to go through another season of rebirth.
I know that self-discovery is a lifelong journey. Each shift, pivot, and season we experience calls for transformation—a new beginning. But this time, I was in denial. Not because I didn’t want to evolve, but because I had already gone through so many rebirths. I tried to ignore it, to pretent it wasn’t happening, but the more I resisted, the more unbearable it became.
It wasn’t until I stopped denying what my soul was calling me to do that I found clarity. Avoiding the shift only left me feeling lost, stagnant, and disconnected from my path.
Maybe you can relate. Maybe you’re feeling unfulfilled, stuck, or unsure of your next steps. Maybe you’re questioning your path, sensing that something within you is shifting. If so, this may be the stirring of your own rebirth.
Recognizing the Call to Pivot
At first, I felt guilty for wanting something more, as if my desire for change meant I was ungrateful for the blessings I already had. But then I had an aha moment:
The feelings rising within me weren’t about a lack of gratitude—they were an awakening. A knowing that I wasn’t yet living the full life God had created for me.
There’s a moment when you awaken to your purpose, and once you do, you can’t ignore it. The pull won’t ease until you take that first step toward the path meant for you.
But let’s be real—embracing change isn’t easy. It’s uncomfortable. It’s uncertain. And that’s exactly where growth happens.
Overcoming Fear and Resistance
Once I received confirmation from Spirit that this was my step—not just for myself, but for other women as well—I experienced a flood of emotions.
At first, I felt relieved, even excited, because I finally understood the direction of this season in my life. But that excitement quickly turned into fear. Who am I to do this? What if I fail? What if I’m not ready?
I felt overwhelmed, vulnerable, and unprepared to step into this new role. As an introvert, I’ve always preferred staying in my comfort zone, hidden in my shell. But I knew deep down that I couldn’t stay there if I wanted to grow.
So, I allowed myself to feel everything—the fear, the doubt, the uncertainty. And then I made a decision: I would do it anyway.
I know firsthand that change is hard. The uncertainty of how things will unfold can feel paralyzing. There’s no handbook or step-by-step guide for transformation, and every person’s journey is uniquely their own. But I believe that the fear of the unknown is what holds so many of us back.
Reflection Moment:
Think about times in your life when you’ve had to embrace change—maybe when you became a mother, started a new joy, or took a leap of faith.
What emotions did you feel in those moments?
How did your body respond?
What helped you navigate the uncertainty?
Our emotional and physical responses to change reveal a lot about how we perceive transitions in our lives. And the truth is, even when change is uncomfortable, it is necessary.
Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster of Change
When we go through a major transition, it’s natural to experience a range of emotions—fear, doubt, excitement, even grief. The key is to allow yourself to feel your way through it.
Some ways to navigate these emotions include:
Crying when you need to. Suppressing emotions only makes them heavier. Let them flow.
Talking to someone you trust. Whether it’s a spouse, close friend, or mentor, having a safe space to express your feelings is invaluable.
Journaling your thoughts. Writing can help process emotions and provide clarity.
Giving yourself grace. You’re allowed to feel uncertain. You’re allowed to not have all the answers.
Sometimes, our emotions create internal resistance, making us hesitant to let go of the person we once were. We cling to what’s familiar, even when we know it no longer serves us. But growth requires us to release the old version of ourselves to become who we’re meant to be.
Releasing Resistance & Embracing Change
One powerful way to move through resistance is to honor the person you were and thank them for getting you to this point.
The version of you that you’re leaving behind has served a purpose. They have carried you through the seasons of life, provided you with lessons, and helped you grow. But now, it’s time to step into the next phase of your journey.
You may not have all the answers right now—and that’s okay. Trust that your intuition will guide you, one step at a time. Small steps forward are still progress.
The Other Side of Change
Once you allow yourself to move through the fear, doubt, and resistance, something shifts. Clarity comes. Alignment follows. Doors begin to open.
For me, it took two weeks of working through my emotions before I felt ready to take action. But once I embraced my journey, everything became clearer. I felt more in tune with my purpose, and opportunities began unfolding in ways I couldn’t have predicted.
Preparing for Your Next Pivot
If you’re in a season of transition, here are a few things that may help:
Communicate with your support system. Let your loved ones know what you’re experiencing and how they can support you.
Give yourself grace. You don’t have to have everything figured out. This journey unfolds one step at a time.
Set small, intentional actions. Whether it’s meditating, journaling, or setting boundaries, commit to one thing each day that supports your growth.
Find your community. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who are also embracing their journeys.
Words of Wisdom
You don’t have to have all the answers before making a change. You just have to be willing to take the first step.
Pivoting is not failure—it’s growth. It’s an opportunity to realign with the life your soul is calling you to live.
So, if you’re in a season of change, embrace it. Even when it feels scary. Even when it feels uncertain. You are being led exactly where you need to be.
